Sometimes we are all so selfish and stupid to get bogged down in the little things in life. The unnecessarily controlling daily minutiae. This narrow sighted vision of life neglects the real truths that are out there. The real issues at hand. The reasons for gratitude become lost. The heartfelt connection with another person disintegrates. The laughter of a child is silenced. The spark of excitement in your soul is outshone by the screen of data you stare at.

Why do we let circumstances control us? When we are the ones in control. Why do we let the weight of others pull us down rather than propel us to new heights? Why is it that the ticking of the clock is heard louder than the laughing of your child? Why is it that portrait of a president on a green piece of paper captures our eyes over a brilliant sunrise or sunset? Why does the clicking of the keyboard keys sing louder than the chirping of the birds outside?

It’s the big picture of life that gets lost in the narrow-sightedness we are all guilty of. The big picture. The big reason. The big answer. The big adventure. All thrown by the wayside….. for the wrong reasons. For the wrong purposes. For the wrong everything.

Put down that phone. Close the laptop lid. Turn off your iPad. These are merely tools that are mistaken as entertaining distractions.

Step outside. Spin around in a circle. Make yourself dizzy as you take in the world around you. Feel your heart race — that pounding of life in your chest that is a reminder. Awaken your soul. Reignite your passions. Reconnect with those you love. Simply….Be that spark of life you were meant to be. Simply BE ! (Click here to subscribe to my mailing list for free)

Cyclops Syndrome or Self-Centered i

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The Cyclops Syndrome or Self-Centered i

We all the know the type. That person who in only fixated on themselves and what impacts them in the world. No regard for others feelings and needs. They aren’t human. They are all EGO. It’s what I call the Cyclops Syndrome or the Self-centered i.

I find it fascinating how people can go through life without other’s concerns in mind. Fascinating from the point of view how that person can enjoy who they are with a lack of connection — spiritual, physical, emotional. Is life easier for them because they only have one person to take care of? Perhaps. Is it as fulfilling? I would tend to guess not. Having nobody to share those moments of joy. Those moments of despair. Those aha moments.– to me, seems lonely.

But who am I to judge? I am not writing to criticize or say what is right or wrong. I am only observing. It’s from observing patterns in others that we help to form ourselves. We can pick and choose from the habit menu of life and adopt those traits that we want to.

It’s always so easy for us to point our finger and blame another for making us the person that we are….when in reality, each and every one of us has the power inside to choose who we want to be. And by observing those habits and traits that we don’t like, we make mental notes about emulating the opposite. In my case…one such trait is the Cyclops Syndrome.

What are some traits you’ve observed that you simply said….”no way. I’ll never be like that.” to?

Life….LIVE it!

Sore Throat – A Lozenge in Life

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Want some “sucrets” on more effective and efficient communication? This post is for you.

So, just recently I somehow incurred the wrath of a throat infection. It hurt so bad, that I could not even swallow. Talking wasn’t much fun either…so I didn’t. The less I talked, the better my throat felt. I kept what I had to say down to a bare minimum. My words were limited to get my thoughts across. And, this, my friends, is when I learned a valuable ‘lozenge’ in life……

The ability to speak…to transfer impulses of electric stimuli from the brain and out of the mouth is simply awesome. I don’t know the physical components of how the process works, but I do know that it is something that we tend to take for granted. We think. We talk. Or, sometimes, we talk before we think. I’m sure that I’m not the only person who has done that, right? Fess up. I know you wanna. 😉

The gift of speech is something to be treasured and nurtured. We all have our unique approaches, styles, and methods of presenting our words, but sometimes, there are more succinct (no…you don’t have use fancy words like that) ways to get to the point and heart of the person or audience you want to connect with.

In this day of what I call our “on demand” society, we don’t always have the luxury to ramble on about a topic to get our ideas across. Instant gratification is a necessity. Attention spans are shorter. The impact needs to be immediate and effective. (and if you are still reading this, than maybe I’m doing something right. If you stopped reading this, then, well, I guess I lost your attention and you wouldn’t even know I said that because you weren’t reading this.)

What are some ways to be more effective in getting your point across verbally? (Visually is another whole topic that I will be featuring in detail in the near future. Stay tuned.)

Here are 5 suggestions:

Jargon: Speak the language of your audience. Use the terminology, buzz words, etc., that they use in their conversation.

Ask: Ask effective questions to deliver accurate responses.

Speak from the heart: Put emotion into what you are saying. Emotion combined with words can definitely get a point across. By the way, this is something that I have found can get totally lost in email communication…no emotion to back the words can lead to misinterpreted text.

On point: Don’t ramble. Spit it out. Rambling can cause your audience to lose interest.

Never doubt what you say. Say your words with conviction. Believe in the power of your speech.

Give some of these a try and I’m sure you will see (hear) your communication become more direct and respected. Since I have been trying these out, I have found that more people are listening to what I am saying.

What are some tips you have for more effective and efficient communication? I would love to hear them. Share your thoughts in the comments below.

tv? or not tv? that is the question

So, I’m trying something totally new here with this post. It’s an impromptu post without any editing or pre-planning. It’s just me and you and I need to get this out there. This is just my personal opinion.

Why must there be tv’s everywhere from the supermarket to restaurants to the mini-vans? Egads! When I take my son out to dinner to treat him for a good job in school, I want to be there WITH him. It’s bonding time — not, let’s see what pessimistic story is on the news. Talk about distractions! Yikes!

Fortunately, I was able to win out tonight. I grabbed some of his crayons and a napkin and started sketching. I created a “magical world” on the napkin and asked Noah what he wanted to add to the world. So he sketched a rainbow. Then I asked him to draw something that show how he feels today.
He drew a smiley face.

Once again, the power of a mere inkling/sketch came to the rescue to bring us back together in father/son conversation. Who knew that the power of the crayon could be mightier than the glow of the tv.

Don’t get me wrong. I enjoy a good tv show every now and then. But not when I’m trying to spend quality time with the people I love.

I would love to know your thoughts about this. Please post your comments below to join in the discussion.